Dr. Raymond Comeau
Self Esteem Blog
“A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” – Oscar Wilde
We are both our greatest friend and worst enemy. We are the creator of most of our joys and the source of most our pains. We are the first to auto-criticize and believe that we are near paragons of virtue. We don’t like to be left in our own company yet secretly believe that we are one of the most interesting person that we know.
In one word, we are walking talking paradoxes. We can’t see the incongruity of our personal beliefs, especially the beliefs that we have about ourselves. We believe that we know who we are yet we are constantly in search of our identity. All that is what makes it so difficult to accept and love ourselves.
Self-acceptance and self-love has been called the ultimate seduction. So called because it is the hardest and most difficult of all seductions. How can a best friend who also happens to be the worst enemy can ever find acceptance and love?
It is not an easy task but not an impossible one either. Many fail at it because they don’t know how and others fail because they don’t even try. Let’s hope that what follows will be a beacon that shows some of the way.