Why Healing Isn’t Easy?

This article looks at that barriers we have to overcome in order to recover from illness; why healing is seen as unattractive; what the language of woundology is; why we tend to hold on to the language of woundology and the reasons for the inability to heal ourselves.

Some individuals tend to have a special ability to heal themselves and others. What is this special ability? Are they born with it? Is this ability important to our health or healing? The common thread among these individuals is that they have developed a special rapport with time and space. They are able to live in the present moment and are not moved by anything in their past. This special skill allows these individuals to have a high level of vitality and ability to heal rather rapidly, and they tend to demonstrate maturity of their souls, practice the highest form of will power and are able to control their spirits by recalling their souls from the toxic perception of the past (Myss, 2001).

As energy enters our bodies, its distribution is limited to various activities, mainly to daily bodily functions and activities. Every time we say “I wish I could understand”, “Why has this happened?” or “I should have done this …” we are focusing on our perception of the past. Doing that, we actually send our soul on a mission to nurture a past injury, creating a mental circuit between the perception of the past and our mind (Myss, 2001). This mentally created circuit is an unnecessary path that our energy can use since there is nothing positive about thinking what you should have done. Consequently, energy is drained from our body, energy that can be used for normal bodily functions. The more times we sent our soul to the past, the more circuits we have with the perception of the past. Eventually depleting our energy resources necessary for normal disease fighting activities and healthy biology.

Reliving our perception of the past is both toxic and waste of time, since anything useful and good out of a past experience is already inside of us. It has made us live through the event therefore has made us stronger, wiser and more experienced. Reliving the past only loses our souls and forces us to relive toxic emotions over and over again, producing a discomforting or dis-eased environment. The dis-eased environment or energy pattern produces a poor harvest which affects our internal cells, creating physical stress and disease. It also affects our aging, because we tend to age faster when our soul is in the past (Myss, 2001). In fact, any reason behind every biological disease can be discovered by closely looking at someone’s biography. This is because our past experiences, our biography become our biology. According to Myss, there is no difference between biology and biography.

If we know that returning to our past is toxic, then why do we do it? One of the reasons is that we have not learned to forgive ourselves and others and   we are bitter about what has happened. Forgiving can be difficult and can create an internal conflict, since it is not congruent with our eye-for-an-eye mentality and our distorted perception of forgiveness that stems from the mentality of “I will not forgive someone because I am innocent and others are so bad”. This mentality tends to make us feel somehow very important and powerful and we think that it puts us at the centre of the universe (Myss, 2001).

In fact this addictive and destructive behavior does not make us powerful at all; through our language it actually creates a victim reality where we give our power away. The use of language about open wounds is called the language of woundology (Myss, 2001). On mental and physical levels, it is very toxic because every time we tend to talk about a wound we are not allowing it to heal. This eventually creates many complications. On a physical level, look what happens when the body does not quickly close an open wound. It becomes infected and eventually amputation can occur. The same happens on a mental level.

The reason why we tend to use the language of woundology is that it is the first language of intimacy that we have learned. It is the foundation for everything that we have created, producing a dependency or an addiction. Leaving it behind can create many internal conflicts. Could you imagine giving up everything that you have created? What uncertainty will this change bring you? Could you start over again and leave other victims behind? Could you be seen as a traitor by other victims? How would you cope with being healthy? These are some of the questions we ask ourselves when we are faced with the dilemma of giving up the language of woundology. It is seen as very unappealing by most and this is why healing is so unattractive. We fear answering these questions and therefore hold onto our destructive language of woundology. Remember that we are more afraid of the uncertainty a change brings to us than death. That is why some people do not want to get healthy and deep down hold onto their destructive behaviors.

Other addictive reason for using a language of woundology is a distorted perception of power it gives us over others. When we use woundology in our language we create a bond between us and other victims who honor our wounds. We understand them and they understand us. This is a form of control, as this bond is used for support in times of need. This unhealthy form of control grows out of own fear of being lonely, and it further strengthens our circuits to the past and reinforces our victim reality.

Our souls act as filters of perception of reality. Recalling our lost souls from the past is the secret to healing and a vital component in creating a positive reality. (Myss, 2001). This requires a use of the highest form of will power and maturity and is vital in creating a healthy frequency. Forgiving, recalls the soul back from the past and shifts frequency to the present, increasing our vitality and minimizing any waste of energy. The new present time perception influences our biology. The 7th chakra activities such as visualization, prayers, meditation and yoga have enough power to influence our physiology by changing our focus on the present moment.

Another way to recall your soul is to clearly identify your injuries and be aware of the language you use. Are you using excuses? Remember excuses come from wounds (Myss, 2001). Watch you language of woundology and give it up every time you use it. Realize that you are intending to control others and trying to get their support just makes things worse. Live one day at a time, focus on the present, have no expectations, make no judgments, give up the need of why things happened, as this is costing you cell tissue and is toxic. Remind yourself that this is a full time occupation.

Additional factors that stop us from healing ourselves are: our inability to deal with will-power incongruence which creates spirit-weakening addictions; inability to unconditionally love ourselves without criticism; allowing fear to control our actions; feeling insecure about life which creates a need to control others and taking things very personally.


Myss, C. (2001). Why People Don’t Heal. [Audio Book], Bolder. CO: Sounds True.

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2 Responses to Why Healing Isn’t Easy?

  1. iphone entsperren says:

    thanks !! extremely helpful post!

  2. Monet says:

    Very interesting…great post!!

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